5/04/2017

Give people your love

"Don’t give in to a life where you follow the hype,
give people your love, don’t give them your like.
Disconnect from the need to be heard and defined
Go out into the world, leave distractions behind."

Look Up by Gary Turk

4/11/2017

Does your empathy predict if you would stop and help an injured person?

If you see an injured person by the side of the road, would you stop and help them, or are you more likely to walk on by? What motivates people to do good in such a situation?

A team of psychologists at the University of Cambridge has conducted a social psychology experiment to test the theory that an individual’s level of empathy influences their behaviour. The results of their preliminary study, dubbed “The Trumpington Road Study” and published in the journal Social Neuroscience, suggest that this theory is correct.

3/03/2016

Flowers have powers to change men’s dating prospects, studies suggest

By Gary W. Lewandowski Jr., Monmouth University
 
Whether it is red roses for Valentine’s Day or a bouquet of fresh-cut flowers as a bride walks down the aisle, flowers are inextricably linked with relationships. But can the mere presence of flowers influence relationships, such as affecting dating prospects? Apparently they can, if we are to believe the results of experiments done by Nicolas Guéguen at the University of Southern Brittany.

In the first experiment, Guéguen randomly assigned female participants to watch a video of a male discussing food while participants were either sitting in a room decorated with three vases full of flowers (roses, marigolds, and daisies), or sitting in a room decorated with empty vases. Women who sat in the room with flowers rated the male in the video as sexier and more attractive – and they were more willing to date him.

5/08/2013

Live your dreams - Grow you

What on earth are you here for? You can find the answer in Rick Warren's highly recommended book Purpose Driven Life. It is the second most-translated book in the world, after the Bible, and have sold millions of copies.

If you google "Rick Warren", you'll find lots of advice and wise quotes by him. Really thoughtful stuff. For instance, he reminds us that "relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is T-I-M-E
because the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves."

12/14/2012

Give time this Christmas

"You can make more money, but you can't make more time. When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back. Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time."

Powerful words, are they not? They make you sit up and think. But it also makes you realize that money or an expensive gift perhaps is not at all on the wish list of some people this Christmas. Perhaps they just want to have a bit of your time. Perhaps just sharing a few words over a cup of coffee or few minutes over the phone.

7/03/2012

When is a compliment not a compliment?

Compliments are not only in verbal form. You also feel complimented by association. For instance, you feel good being part of a certain group or wearing a particular brand of clothing.

Flattery comes in the same way. And as you know, compliments come from the heart but flattery is insincere, tongue-in-cheek, and almost always comes with a hidden motive.

Flattery in verbal form is easy to spot. But what about flattery by association? Have you really thought it through thoroughly about the group or network you associate yourself with? Does it pay you a compliment? Or is it flattery?

6/20/2012

Be Attitude

The famous "Be Attitude" is worth a re-visit often. It is positive, motivating, encouraging.

Be understanding to your perceived enemies.
Be loyal to your friends.
Be strong enough to face the world each day.
Be weak enough to know you cannot do everything alone.
Be generous to those who need your help.
Be teachable to show maturity.